Friday, September 12, 2008

How to take responsibility for your mistakes

Why are our churches so unwilling to repent and admit they are wrong? It's because their men and women are unwilling to repent and admit they are wrong. We are okay at admitting our sin in a general sort of way. "Oh yeah, I'm a sinner. That's me. Sinner."

But we're not as good at admitting it do specific things wrong like when we say a hurtful word to a friend, poke fun at something people put importance in, or forget to take out the trash even when it's our turn (those are all things I've done).

Here's a fun little how to about how to to take responsibility for our mistakes from WikiHow. By the way, I love Wikipedia and I love WikiHow. They're the coolest.

Thursday, September 11, 2008

The Pragmatic Jesus and Institution v. Community

I don't check this blog frequently, but when I did today it was rather to my surprise that I discovered that there's a proper colloquy underway here! I couldn't resist contributing a couple odd thoughts and friendly concerns.


I have read Carnegie's book, but I harbor some reservations about a straightforward application of his flexible brand of amiable pragmatism to the practices proper to the life of the Church seeking reconciliation. I feel as if Jesus and Paul and the early Fathers and Mothers of the Church simply didn't always interact with others in ways recognizably consistent with these principles. Jesus wasn't really one to try to get the best of arguments by avoiding them: he often dove straight in! And in the midst of those arguments, he disclosed the Father's grace, love, mercy, and justice to those around him.

Paul really wasn't too good at always showing respect for other people's opinions and never saying, "You're wrong." The start of Galatians 3 comes to mind: "You foolish Galatians! Who has bewitched you?" Or earlier in the same epistle, "I am astonished that you are so quickly deserting the one who called you in the grace of Christ and are turning to a different gospel." When the Good News of the Kingdom was at stake, neither Paul nor Jesus was afraid to rebuke, correct, and just generally be in the faces of those they loved.

My point in saying this is not to discredit the ideas of Carnegie: I think that there are some very helpful pointer that he offers: it's probably hard to go wrong by sympathizing with other people's ideas and desires. Further, I think that as disciples, we in the church could probably do a better job of practicing genuine hospitality toward others.

Nevertheless, I do think that sometimes the practices proper to the reconciling Church can demand arguments, judgment-in-love, confrontation, and other prickly modes of interaction with each other. Relationships are important. So important, in fact, that they sometimes demand extreme measures to maintain them.

I think that perhaps just such extreme measures are sometimes called for in seeking to respond to the problem that Emmet sketches. The divisiveness imported into the church by self-acclaimed 'grass-roots,' 'para-church,' or 'post-institutional' Christian groups must be challenged by calling those folks to genuine community with those who are supposedly 'stuck' in 'archaic, ineffective' institutional churches. They depend on them. And only as that dependence is articulated in concrete modes of fellowship will the Body be drawn together in love.

What To Do When You Disagree

I was stumbling yesterday, you know, using stumble upon (it's a pretty fun tool. If you use it, make sure to recommend this blog!), and I ran into Dale Carnegie's summary of his classic book How to Win Friends and Influence People. If the title raises your inner cynic, quash it down. It's really a good book.

The Steps

Brett, Emmet, and I have been have a little argument via email over Seth's post about community vs. institution (see Seth's blog here, see Emmet's post here). Last night, Brett and I talked well past my bedtime about the issue. I had read Mr. Carnegie's summary just a little before, and I tried to use some of his techniques.

Let me display them here:

How to win people to your way of thinking:
  1. The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.
  2. Show respect for the other person's opinions. Never say, "You're wrong."
  3. If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.
  4. Begin in a friendly way.
  5. Get the other person saying "yes, yes" immediately.
  6. Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.
  7. Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.
  8. Try honestly to see things from the other person's point of view.
  9. Be sympathetic with the other person's ideas and desires.
  10. Appeal to the nobler motives.
  11. Dramatize your ideas.
  12. Throw down a challenge.


I like Carnegie--Seth Godin reminds me a little of him--because he puts people before ideology. He says the relationship is more important than being perceived as "right." The book Change or Die says basically the same thing, the first step to changing someone's mind is changing their heart through relationship.

It's a humbling way to go about conflicting ideas, but it's good for everyone.

How to Provide Opportunity for Forgiveness

I remember approaching a pastor whom I greatly admired after he gave a sermon, a sermon I disagreed with. I told him my home church saw it differently. So he spent a few minutes talking about why me and my church were wrong.

I was hurt, confused, and angry with everyone. Just 17, I felt like I had been put in the middle of an argument by two feuding parents. I went back to my home church pastor and told him what the other pastor had said. My pastor dismissed his rationale, but didn't get into the argument. This didn't really help. I needed answers, and I needed guidance from someone I trusted.

Finally, I ended up telling a college professor who was giving a sunday school class. Even though he was a stranger, he listened, gave a few comments, and smiled. I don't remember what he said, but I went away feeling like both sides of the argument had been disarmed. The disagreement was no longer a threat to my relationship between either of the pastors important to me.

Somewhere in the middle of talking to the professor, forgiveness had happened.

The Challenge

I want to make a challenge to One in Christ, and to all Christians. Let's try on Mr. Carnegie's 12 steps for differences of opinion. Let's see if it does what he says, if it wins to our way of thinking. Foremost though, let's use it amongst us OICers as we delve into divisive issues. Our relationships are important.

Wednesday, September 10, 2008

The Road to Jerusalem Leads Through Canterbury (and Rome and Constantinople and Antioch and Alexandria....)

I find the description of organic community offered by Seth Barnes and others like him refreshing, particularly in the 'social contract' intellectual climate of the modern West. As the body of Christ, we are members of one another, and I think Seth/John Eldredge are right to decry the ways in which institutional church life can so often become arm's-length and superficial.

That said, the very title of his post reveals something I find deeply frustrating, for the very same reason that I find Barnes and those like him refreshing. It seems to me the whole idea of "institutional church VS community" undermines its own intentions in a number of ways, as I saw, for instance, in San Francisco over spring break.

In San Francisco, there is a really neat organization called ReImagine that does community outreach and invites people to come in for specific periods of time for deliberate spiritual formation and simply learning to live richly (in the relational, rather than the material sense).

I see this community as a kind of vaccine against a lot of social problems in the inner city, not because it is solving all of them, but because I see a community ethic of mutuality, intentionality, living well where one is at (and inviting others into that life) as the proper response to the pain, suffering and disorder that groups like Westmont's Spring Break In the City teams seek to address. Offering to those within your reach the opportunity to live well and become more human in intentional community affords them the chance to avoid the paths on which many of those suffering on the city streets find themselves.

However, ReImagine follows the same 'community vs institution' paradigm described by Seth, with a self-described ecclesial ethic of "being the Church, rather than going to church." Now, in some sense there's no such thing as going to church. There's only being the Church, but what this appears to mean for groups like ReImagine is that, since the old, 'institutional' structures of ecclesial life are becoming obsolete, the way forward is to abandon them (and the communities they gather).

And this abandonment is really the heart of the issue. It reveals and identity crisis in the Church that has long screamed for attention. However, as a response to such a crisis, this abandonment only spreads the rift in the universal Church in new directions. The new great schism is no longer between East and West, or between Catholics and Protestants, but between 'community' and 'institution', and, like its predecessors, presents an illegitimate dichotomy.

Yes, community means gathering at more than an arm's length. Yes, community means a revealing, and often uncomfortable commitment to authenticity. Yes, community means more than just showing up for an hour on Sunday. But community means those with Barnes' and ReImagine's vision gathering at more than arm's length with those in the musty old institutions (gathered nonetheless in commitment to Jesus' Lordship) and calling them to live up to their creeds and mission statements.

Community means a commitment to authenticity that is uncomfortable for institutions because it challenges them to a lifestyle of shaking off stagnation and calls them to be what they are in the economy of salvation. This is uncomfortable for those voicing such calling because it challenges them to remain committed even when things don't go as they'd hoped. And this kind of commitment at least involves showing up on Sunday.

Seth and ReImagine have good sensibilities about what community life is, and they have developed these sensibilities out of a commitment to the Jesus revealed in Scripture and proclaimed in the Church. But the Bibles read in house churches come from somewhere. And there are reasons these fellowships worship God as Father, Son and Holy Spirit rather than, say, great victor over the Demiurge.

The traditional forms of liturgy and ecclesial life aren't going anywhere, and the community-oriented meaning at the heart of house church practice is also the very substance of the traditional liturgies. Those who want to 'shake off' the institutional structures of the Church by abandoning them do a disservice not only to themselves but to the entire mission of the Church catholic by undermining the ecclesial history on whose frontier they stand. They distance themselves from the visible, historic communities through which their central doctrines have been preserved from the beginning, and from the visible, contemporary communities already doing many of the same social outreaches in the same places.

In the case of ReImagine, there are so many 'institutional' church outreaches taking place in San Francisco that have been doing the same things for decades (such as the St. Anthony Foundation, Missions Outpost Fellowship and St. Boniface church). ReImagine pursues a community ethic and has a vision that stands to further enrich ministries like St. Anthony, but if groups like ReImagine write off the structures that give rise to such ministries, they give up this opportunity to serve the whole Church with their gifts.

This leaves St. Anthony a bit short-changed, but also undermines the mission of the whole Church in San Francisco by further compromising its unity. It also leaves ReImagine a bit short-changed. 'Institutional' and 'liturgical' church ministries have been in San Francisco much longer and have deep roots in the city's culture (not to mention the Church's culture).

If groups like ReImagine want to take the city's pulse, places like St. Boniface church, or Missions Outpost are good ones to start. Of course, not all of these groups are necessarily silent to one another, or even on negative terms. But the issue at hand is community, specifically how we live together as Church, and living in community involves commitment to those in one's immediate circle, but also to the whole Church.

Longer standing institutions need to hear the voices of those like ReImagine and Seth Barnes, while those like Barnes and ReImagine could benefit from robust accounts of the practices of more 'high-church' traditions. The community ethic articulated by those like Eldredge, Barnes and ReImagine stands to breathe fresh air into stagnating liturgical churches precisely where they have become dry by presenting a concrete contemporary rendering of the very community ethics enshrined in more 'liturgical' structures and rituals.

Such rendering holds the potential for recovering some of the most profound traditions of the Church, while the structures and rituals themselves offer a depth, richness and theological robustness unmatched in most contemporary media. As high church-ers and free church-ers, and everyone in between, we need to discern the body of Christ, and we need to share ourselves with one another, to offer wisdom, and dialog with one another - both interpersonally and inter-confessionally - especially when we disagree.

Naturally, since I've taken such liberties to mention(even link!) certain people and organizations by name, I appreciate their feedback and corrections, and welcome any resulting dialog.

Friday, February 8, 2008

Anglican Archbishop, Rowan Williams' Recent Comment

There's another huge storm a brewin' in the Anglican / Episcopal Church. Except this time it's not about sexuality but culture. Check out the blowback here.

This is what happens when your concept of the Church is a big, giant, welcoming tent. Don't get me wrong, Jesus is indeed very welcoming. But the Body of Christ is NOT a tent! It's not made of fabric and bendy poles! Instead, it's a man who sacrificed his life for his friends. Who was raised up on the third day. Instead, it's the people that participate in his sacrifice.

If you haven't read the article, Dr. Rowan Williams, Archbishop of the Anglican Church, is encouraging the British government to accept Sharia (Islamic) law as a sort of governing option, as I understand it. He says Sharia is already being recognized to a large extent by the government, and with the continued influx of Muslims into England, it is only innevitable that Islamic law will make a bigger and bigger impact on the country.

As for me, I don't really care that much about how the English decide to run their country. It's a democratic nation and it would make sense that the laws of the country are representative of the people that live there. However, I am concerned about the Archbishops arguments and general attitude about diversity.

He says that Sharia is inevitable. According to his own creeds, the only thing that is innevitable is the resurrection of the dead. God will do what he will with this "culture war," but Rowan's calling is to stand by Christ as Christ stands for the Father. Maybe I'm wrong, but I see too much false pluralism, too much religious relevancy in Rowan's attitude.

I'm trying hard not to be too critical of Rowan. He's trying to be a peacemaker, and I admire that. I'm trying to learn to forgive him, forgive my Church, and to forgive myself of seeing "in a mirror dimly."

What do you think?

Wednesday, January 30, 2008

Survey

Here's a quick survey for those of you paying attention. What are the biggest problems in your life? Loneliness, problems with the opposite sex, problems forgetting things, depression, problems with money?


Just comment annonymously if you feel uncomfortable.


Second question: what are some problems that you have with your faith? Questions, concerns, doubt, fear, lack of closeness with God, poor prayer life, bad discipline?


I'll tell you why we're doing this in a little bit.

Joe

PS Don't be affraid to post freely. Just be Honest!

Tuesday, January 8, 2008

One In Christ--Houghton College Edition

Hello from the blustery hills of upstate New York! Some of you may not know that I am presently working here at Houghton College (an east coast sister institution to Westmont) to form a One In Christ connection here on the Houghton College Campus. There have been many exciting developments in the initial formulations of what a sister ministry to Westmont's would look like in the context of a college engaged in answering a variety of different questions than those posed by Westmont's differing context. The Holy Spirit is moving people powerfully on our campus to pursue a revitalized vision of love and unity in the church. Currently, the campus OIC ministry is at a critical stage as our Spiritual Life Committee considers a short proposal that I have submitted to them in their next meeting this Saturday (January 12). I hope that further updates will quickly be forthcoming as developments take further shape here at Houghton.
Grace and Peace!